Better Together

Before John & I told anyone of our infertility diagnosis, I could count the other couples I knew struggling on one hand. Since joining an AMAZING support group (Sarah’s Laughter)  and starting my blog, I need to grow about two more hands to be able to count all my infertility warriors now.

1 in 8 couples deal with infertility often times it couples that you would never expect, couples you had no idea what size burden they are carrying. Infertility isn’t a medical condition that is often talked about. But did you know that researchers did a study and found that an infertility diagnosis has the same emotional impact on a patient as a cancer diagnosis?! But couples still feel the need to hide it, to act like everything is okay. Sweep it under the rug and put on a smiling face for the world to see.  That is exactly how I felt.


Fortunately,  when our paths seem long & dark, we don’t have to walk alone.


 I am thankful for a God who wants to hear my struggles, who wants me to pray and ask for help. He wants to share my burdens. And you know what else is pretty neat? He has given me the gift of some pretty amazing friends who want to pray and help as well. You see, I’m convinced we are better together. John and I don’t have to walk this season of life alone. He gave us friends to lean on and to help carry our burdens.

It is hard to open up, real hard. My mind keeps going back to a day when my Pastor and his wife took John & I out to lunch. We shared with them our infertility struggles. He asked us if we had considered opening up to our small group. My initial reaction was to say no and explain how emotional and personal our struggle is. I couldn’t let people know how much we were struggling, wouldn’t I just be complaining anyway? That day kept replaying in my head. Why couldn’t we open up about our infertility? Why did I feel the need to act like everything was perfect when I felt like I was constantly treading water just to survive?

Matthew 11:28 kept coming to mind. God was telling me to stop trying to fight this battle by myself. I couldn’t fix it, John couldn’t fix, but God can. And when I feel like I can’t pray anymore, God has given me brothers and sisters to lean on. By opening up about our infertility and by joining a support group ( that I L-O-V-E, LOVE LOVE LOVE!), it amazes me how much better I feel. There is SO much love and support around us. I can’t explain to you how strong the women are in my support group, they are the strongest women I know. In just one week of sharing my blog lots facebook friends have shared their struggles and pains too!

The road of infertility is long and hard. But it is much more tolerable with an amazing God, and with the friends he has placed in my life. You may not be struggling with infertility, but whatever your struggles are (a job, marriage, finances, other diseases), I encourage you to pray about it and to open up to someone. We aren’t meant to live this life alone. Thankfully, we don’t have to, because we are all better together.


5 thoughts on “Better Together

  1. sarahbethhunt says:

    I sure love you guys, Lauren, and I am praying for you as you walk this road. I can’t wait to see what God does in your lives! I know God has something even greater planned for you than you could ever wish for on your own. Let me know how I can be there for you as you remain in my prayers! Much love!


  2. Kristy Brackin says:

    I agree… We are better together! God said we are to bear one another’s burdens, yet, many of life’s biggest struggles are the very ones that are the hardest to share with others. Why is that? Embarrassment? Anger? Or perhaps… PRIDE???

    You know what is so cool, though? Jesus modeled how to deal with His own agony of being separated from the Father in order to take on our sins. When He was in the garden before the crucifixion, He prayed, “Abba, Father, everything is possible for you. Take this cup from me. Yet not what I will, but what you will.” He did this PUBLICLY in front of disciples. Later on the cross, He cried out again to the Father, PUBLICLY. It has always intrigued me of why Jesus didn’t just keep His struggles locked inside and pray to God, silently… Awww… Once again… He was doing it for you and for me. ❤️

    My sweet niece, Lauren, (and John, of course), I simply can’t tell you how proud of you all I am. Your faith in God is breathtaking and oh how you are modeling for so many others and their own personal struggles. Todd and I waited 2 years to meet our precious Caleb, but that waiting experience has allowed me to personally minister and pray with so many others, as my own faith was strengthened. It was during that time that I REALLY learned about faith in God and to believe upon His promises! I wouldn’t trade that time for anything because that faith also allows me to pray, not wishfully or hopefully, but EXPECTANTLY that our God will also give you the desires of your heart in His just right time. Love you!!!!


  3. Nikita says:

    Love this and LOVE you both! I’m so glad you decided to share, it really is a big relief to talk to someone. Just remember I am always just a phone call away! Praying for you and I’m anxiously awaiting tomorrow. Xoxo -Nikita


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